Grief and Healing

The death of a loved-one, be it a parent, a child, a sibling, a close friend, a spouse or a lover, is one of the most painful experiences a person will encounter in his lifetime. It is always difficult to understand, unwanted, unasked for. Grief may well be the deepest sadness the human heart can ever endure. No open wound is visible. There is no bloodshed but the pain is every bit excruciating as that of a horrendous laceration.

Every person have a different way of coping up with a great loss. Some handle it positively while others fall into a deep stupor, engulfed in a paralyzing emptiness. The pain does not end after the burial. Sometimes, it becomes even more unbearable with the realization that the deceased will never be physically part of our lives again. Accepting the reality of death of a loved-one is never easy. It brings out all sorts of emotions like anger, hopelessness, sorrow and disappointment. Some will blame themselves, the deceased and even God for their misfortune. Some may even think that life is not worth living anymore. But these are all passing feelings. One just need an outlet to release these emotions. Crying is one good way of relieving the pain. This is also the best time to be with family and friends so you can share your emotions with them. Or take a vacation. A good rest and a new environment can be helpful in healing.

Grieving is an integral part of letting go and moving on. It allows us to rest and heal before picking up the remaining pieces of our life and starting anew. The best tribute we can give our departed loved-ones is to live a happy and meaningful livses as if they are still with us. Cherish their memories, let them inspire us. And look forward to that one fine day when all of us will be together again.